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I'm so fucking fed-up with Black Week/Friday advertisement e-mails!! Companies that I'm usually okay to get newsletters from have been sending them most days for 3 weeks now. This week they're sounding desperate, most of them sending an email every day and many even 2 e-mails a day! I'm so sick of the e-mail bombarding! I fucking know there's a Black Week/Friday happening! I don't need you to tell me that a 100 times!!!!! Ugh.

Answers to today's questions at thefridayfive@DW

1. If the world were to suddenly end right now, what do you wish you would have done?

Written more fanfic! Or more precisely, edited the fic I have written since getting chronically ill and make it pretty enough so I could share it.

But my main wish is that the the past year wouldn't be the last. I'd regret that the last year of my life had been actively made a lot worse financially, medically and just simply by inducing a lot of stress by the far-right government which is focused on systematically dismantling the wellfare state and making things worse for everyone not in the richest 10% but particularly for the working class, the unemployed and the sick (Kokoomus' agenda). I'd also very much regret that the other main party in the government, Perussuomalaiset, has been allowed to normalize and mainstream hatred and racism since 2008. It used to be that whenever some random member of the Perussuomalaiset party said something horrific, all the news and media would report it as appalling. Now the news won't even mention it and it's just business as usual. It used to be that even Kokoomus was against, racism, at least publically and would not tolerate such antics, but now Orpo and the others in power in Kokoomus seem to tolerate anything from Perussuomalaiset in order to get their destroy the wellfare state and kick the poor agendas into laws.

I'd REALLY hate that to be my last year on this Earth, and that to remain the image of the Finnish people.

2. How many times do you hit the snooze button before getting out of bed?

Anything from 0 to 6! Usually 1-3 times. More than 3 happen when I don't really and truly wake up. My snooze is 10 minutes so occasionally it happens that I wake up 50 minutes "late" bleary eyed and weirded out that apparently I've snoozed 6 times but I don't remember hitting the snooze button at all, or remember hitting it just one (1) time.

I usually only snooze when I don't have to leave anywhere in the morning.

3. What cartoon do you enjoy watching from the present (or the past)?

I don't think I've seen cartoons made since like 1980s; I watched them when I was a kid but not really since then. That said, sometimes I accidentally catch some old Tom & Jerry or Roadrunner or Bugs Bunny cartoons on tv - the ones made before 1980s, the old classics. I don't even know if they make cartoons of them anymore! I like those old classics a lot!

4. If you could go to any time and/or place in history, where/when would it be?

Honestly? I probably wouldn't. What with my illnesses, I'd probably die from them pretty quickly if I didn't have my meds or they ran out. Not to mention, without my eyeglasses I'm almost blind, so if they got broken or my vision even worse, I'd be functionally blind and the thought doesn't appeal to me.

5. If your life were a movie, what would it be rated and why?

PG, for some swear words and cursing (I don't believe swearing rates a rating at all but since you asked...) but really, my life is too boring and not-happening... nobody would want to make a movie out of it!

Answers to today's questions at thefridayfive@DW https://thefridayfive.dreamwidth.org/132130.html

1. What is your favourite food?

I really have two:

For cooking at home: home made mashed potatoes and fried herring.

For eating in a restaurant: French fries and "lehtipihvi". Lehtipihvi is a steak that is only 2-3 millimeters thick but very wide and tall. I've never been able to get a steak like this for frying at home, only get them at restaurants. This is what I always have the very rare times I eat in a restaurant.

2. What is your favourite food preparation method?

Don't really have one. Whatever fits my needs and desires the best at the time is my favorite.

3. What is your favourite cuisine or style of cooking?

I've really come to love basic Finnish home cooking, the kind of food that was everywhere when I was a kid in the 1980s. So no pizzas or hamburgers or ethnic foods but just your basic cooked potatoes and sauce with some kind of meat slices, mashed potatoes with meatballs or fried herring, cooked potatoes and fishsticks, pan-fried potatoes and fried sausage. Rice and chicken casserole. Macaroni and pan-fried minced meat casserole.

Yeah, a lot of potato foods. Potatoes were a staple of cooking back then, we had them in some form or another on practically every dinner.

4. Do you have any dietary restrictions and if so what are they

I used to have clear restrictions until about 20 years of age because of food allergies. I still do have some restrictions, but because of a different reason and a lot less clear.

I used to have food allergies: chocolate, citrus fruits and some other things. Now it's less clear, but I still have rash although about 99% less. But I'm not sure whether it's because of some foods because I also atopic skin so I probably would have rashes just because of that no matter what.

Now I have some restrictions due to Crohn's Disease: a few specific foods and drinks are forbidden most of the time: sima (mead) which is only enjoyed around May Day in May, mämmi (rye pudding) which is available only for Easter, and this one specific rye bread which is available year around. I can have little portions of these nowadays IF my Crohn's disease symptoms are good and stable at the time and have been for a while. Because they very easily cause worsening of diarrhea. Which is sad because I LOVE all three and not being able to eat/drink them as I used to makes me sad and feel like I'm missing out.

Otherwise, there are foods that are good to avoid when you have Crohn's, but I don't pay much attention to a lot of them because they're foods I've never eaten before either such as peas or legumes. Otherwise it's also possible that frying can make symptoms worse as well as using lots of butter or other fats so low fat is recced generally. But all food styles and ingredients are very indidual how they affect a patient or not, doctors can't really help with that or even dieticians, you have to trial and error what works for your Crohn's. And then that too changes on how inflamed your bowels are, where the inflammation is located etc. I eat pretty normally, but when I'm having very bad symptoms, I've noticed I like very plain foods - porridge, banana, rice, chicken, viili, plain yoghurt with little bit of honey - that sort of thing. And then if the symptoms are very, very bad.... usually my appetite is gone completely then as well, and then it's actually easier to drink nutritional supplements such as Nutridrink in addition to whatever food I manage to get down just to recude stress about am I getting enough nutrients. And Nutridrinks are easier, less offensive and faster to get down too than some porridge or something and that's a big thing when I'm not feeling like eating at all.

So I go very much by how my bowels are feeling - calm and stable: eat almost whatever I want to. Queasy, restless, flatulence, more diarrhea: avoid fried, fatty foods and favor more bland fare.

5. If you could introduce the whole world to one ingredient to improve their culinary experience, what would that be and why?

Don't have such thing.

But pizza should always have Aura blue cheese on it - and plenty of it!

Answers to today's questions at thefridayfive @ Dreamwidth

1. Where do you get ideas/inspo for your writing?

Anything scifi I've ever watched or read. Also some erotic novels I bought in the 90s from the Black Lace series, particularly the historical ones. And all the fanfic I read!

2. Do you have a favorite place to write?

Nope. I write on my couch or at my desk, but usually on my couch. I've tried writing outside on my tiny back yard and in a cafe, but I can't concentrate - there's too much noise and too many things going on as people pass by.

3. What are your tricks for getting through writers block?

I haven't found one that works. I'm not sure it's a writer's block I have though - I've always had difficulty starting (even back in school!), and after I got ill, I just don't have the energy to be creative much. So it's now hard because of that + still hard to start! Usually if I can keep writing, forcing it out, for about 30 minutes, it gets easier and easier after that and eventually I get into a "zone" where I can write for up to 6 hours without problems and a few short breaks not breaking the "zone". But then I'm wiped after that, but feel good.

4. Favorite genre to write? Do you have a different favorite genre for reading?

I love writing fanfic smut! It's definitely my favorite fanfic genre to write. As for reading - fanfic, I love reading smut as well. But I also love very much long, plotty but smutty fics that stick to the canon era/world, picks a point and then goes on to extrapolate how the story might go from there! Game of Thrones Sansa/Sandor fics are great for this! I love so many of them.

I also enjoy writing horror occasionally, and that's where scifi comes in.

As for reading published novels - I read detective/crime novels the most. In recent years, I've re-discovered my love of scifi reading... but only read more recent ones, such as The Expanse series by James S.A. Corey, White Space series by Elizabeth Bear, Semiosis series by Sue Burke. I loved Seven Eves by Neal Stephenson. Because at some point I got so fed-up with the "classic" scifi - Asimov etc. and one of the reasons for that was, that women characters were either absent or did nothing important and the men were the only heros. And I also found a lot of the writing style of the classic scifi boring. So I stopped reading scifi somewhere in the 90s.

My most favorite genre to read is a mix of of action-adventure/bit of romance/thriller/supernatural so novels like Dean R. Koontz writes, that type of thing.

5. What is something you really want to write but haven't gotten around to yet?

In my case it's more like, I'd really really like to not loose all interest once a story out of my head on paper/computer so I could post it to my site and AO3. But ever since I got ill, whenever I get the story out of my head, whether that's on paper or Scrivener/FocusWriter/LibreOffice on the laptop, in its very raw, vomited form - I lose ALL interest. It's done. It doesn't even come to my mind anymore. And it's too raw and uglymangled to be shared - half of it might be in English, some in Finnish, skipping bits of scenes or dialogue just to get it out, with the intention to write the bridges (usually just a sentence or two per missing bit) later on while cleaning it up. But cleaning up never happens because the story is done, complete once it's out, and I can ramp up exactly ZERO interest to do anything further with it. It simply is DONE.

That never happened before I got ill.

Answers to today's questions at https://thefridayfive.dreamwidth.org/131751.html

1. Do you celebrate or observe Halloween? How?

I don't... but increasingly, a lot of families with kids have started to do Halloween in the last decade or so. And there's a tons of Halloween candy in stores nowadays as well. But it's totally commercial in nature, the point of all activities seems to be to get free candy (at least that's how appears to an outsider). I don't know if it's like that in the US.

2. What is your favorite Halloween candy?

Don't have one. I've tried a few chocolates and candies because I love chocolate and candy, but the Halloween stuff taste worse than our normal stuff, cheap and industrial. I think that may be because, I think maybe it's imported from abroad? I don't think it's lucrative for our domestic companies to develop local Halloween candy themselves. At least all the ones I've checked have been imported from abroad.

3. Do you get trick-or-treaters on Halloween?

We get them starting with the last weekend of October and through the first weekend of November, and all through that week. There's recently been some noise about this because there's no tradition here of Halloween (is as in which actual days) so it's spread out randomly over a week and the bookending weekends, and the continual randomness annoys a portion of people even though they like Halloween, not to mention those who don't like Halloween at all!

There's also the fact the at the same exact time (the end of October and start of November), there is the "pyhämiestenpäivä" aka "vainajien päivä", which has been observed in Finland for centuries. Typically by lighting candles on graves and remembering dead loved ones and general quietness and thoughtfullness. So the opposite of Halloween. I think fewer people observe pyhämiestenpäivä now than a few decades ago but still, a lot of people feel like an imported, commercial Halloween insults and takes away from the Finnish tradition because both are at the same time.

I don't open my door to trick-or-treaters, and if they ring my bell a lot during an evening, I use a towel to muffle the bell because it's annoying and frustrating.

4. Do you enjoy dressing up in costumes?

I do, but not Halloween costumes.

5. What is your favorite Halloween memory?

I don't have Halloween related memories or happenings. Halloween didn't exist in Finland when I was a kid or a young person. I've never observed/celebrated it when it started to come along here because by then I was like 30 by then and I've never been into witches etc. and I don't like it being so commercial.

I could've sworn I had taken a photo of the beetroot soup I make but can't find it, so I guess not! A soup photo from Pixabay instead.

Answers to yesterday's questions at thefridayfive@DW!

1. Do you like soup?

Food soups? Nope. Fruit or berry soups? Yes.

I don't find (food) soups filling and most soups look unattractive to me - vaguely brownish/yellowish/greenish colored ones particularly, they look like somebody's been sick. Soups just generally look suspect.

I'm a picky eater and although I'm not as bad as I was when I was a kid and in my 20s, I still don't like a lot of ingredients mixed all up. I also don't like cooked vegetables (whether they're pureed nor not) both the taste and the texture. I don't ever eat those soups which have potato and other pieces and see-though sauce. Such as this nakkikeitto at https://sekasoppa.vuodatus.net/lue/2006/09/nakkikeitto

That said, I do eat some smooth soups! I (very mildly, barely past neutral) like some store bought soups: cheese & smoked reindeer soup, sweet potato soup as well as ginger-vegetable soup all three which are made by Saarioinen. Mostly I buy these because very occasionally I want something totally different from my usual fare, or need something that is good to freeze and fast to heat and fast and no work to eat because I'm having a bad batch health wise. Two of those Saarioinen soups are also a cheerful color and that makes a lot of difference to me!

Even though I eat smooth soups, the smooth texture becomes gagging inducing after enough spoonfuls/drinking of smooth soup. I never manage to get quite a bowlful down, there's always 2-3 spoons still left when the smoothness starts making me gag. That's a major reason I don't eat them often.

So some soups are okay, but never my first choice unless I'm in a bad way with exhaustion and/or pain.

I like fruit and berry soups!

2. What is your favorite soup?

I occasionally make one particular smooth (food) soup myself: it's made with beetroot, Aura blue cheese, potato, carrot, apple, red onion and cream. This is the only soup I can genuinely say I enjoy the taste of, but I only make it a couple of times a year because I find it cumbersome to make. All that slicing, cooking and smashing/pureeing/squashing (what is the right word???) and it produces only 4-5 portions! I do love the color of this soup - it's a wonderful deep magenta!

Of fruit and berry soups, my favorite is the strawberry soup which I both make myself and buy frequently. There's also blueberry soup that I love a lot, which is great cold eaten with (cold) semolina porridge or just drank cold as-is!

3. What kind of soup would you like to try, but never have?

I've never encountered one I actually want to try...

4. Is stew just a soup with extra ingredients?

Nope. Stew has less liquid.

5. If you were a soup, what soup would you be and why?

No idea. Probably something made from whatever random forgotten vegetables happen to be in the fridge, that looks very ugly and tastes weird and no one can say whether it's good weird or bad weird!

Friday 5 for October 11: Crib - http://f.riday5.com/2024/10/11/friday-5-for-october-11-crib/

1. When did you last have fresh cut flowers in your home?

I'm not sure - either last year for my birthday and/or Name Day. Those are the only the occasions usually.

2. When did you last have a guest not related to you in your home?

A guest? It's been years.

3. When did you last have a service or delivery person in your home?

I don't remember exactly when it was - maybe the August package delivery. I don't think I've had anything delivered home after that.

4. When did you last have nobody at all (including you) overnight in your home?

This entire week Monday-Friday! I was away for rehabilitation the entire week, and got back yesterday (Friday afternoon).

5. When did you last have an unexpected visitor at your front door?

No idea. I don't usually open my door unless I'm expecting delivery, workmen or guests. There's a lot of kids in my complex that like to ring door bells a lot at times, and at times there are Jehova's Witnesses, bible thumpers or random sales people working neighborhoods. Sales people particularly running up to Christmas, selling expensive advent calendars with candy fillings (bad tasting candy to boot). So if I'm not expecting anyone, it's 99 times our of 100 somebody you don't want to waste your time on!

Friday 5 for October 18: Yuputka 2 - http://f.riday5.com/2024/10/18/friday-5-for-october-18-yuputka-2/

1. In German, fernweh is a longing for distant places, perhaps even places you’ve never been. What place you’ve never been do you have fernweh for?

No place that exists. But Star Trek TNG (the series, not the movies) the Enterprise!

2. In Finnish, myötähäpeä is “the kinder, gentler cousins of schadenfreude, something akin to “vicarious embarrassment.” For whom did you last feel myötähäpeä?

That's not the correct definition of myötähäpeä as I've always understood it. Myötähäpeä is when one feels 1)personal embarrassment 2)on account of 3)and for another who is 4)making a fool of him or herself and 5)not realizing it. All five points must be present for myötähäpeä to occur.

Unfortunately, this entire current government is frequently making me feel myötähäpeä by nearly all of their policy decisions, which are uncivilized, idiotic and cruel, as well as by political and other scandals their politicians produce. There's been something at least every other month since the current government came into power 1,5 years ago. The current government is making the entire country look bad.

3. In Japanese, shouganai means “there’s nothing we can do about it, so we accept it, rather than waste time worrying or being angry.” How good are you at saying shouganai and putting it into practice?

I guess I'm pretty good. I should be less good at it, really!

4. In Scots, tartle is the “panicky hesitation just before you have to introduce someone whose name you can’t quite remember.” When did you last experience tartle and how did you handle it?

I haven't had to introduce anyone in years, but I frequently don't remember people's names. I'm bad with names, particularly if they aren't written down. Ideally, say in a group, we'd all wear name tags at least first - that's the best way for me to remember a name and which face it goes with. I might remember everything the other persons have told me over a week, but still don't remember their names.

5. In Georgian, zeg means “the day after tomorrow.” What are you doing zeg?

Ylihuomenna meaning day after tomorrow is Monday, and I'll be getting my COVID-19 booster shot and hopefully also be able to book a new appointment with my GP.

Got back home a little over an hour ago! Checking around now and nothing seems to have thrown a fit while I was away which is nice 💖

The week was very good - exhausting, but good. I only got one (1) migraine attack during this. Which is unheard of. Normally I'd had one every night. But looks like staying overnight made that much of a difference. The KELA lady was right when she strongly recommended staying overnight! Migraine attack aside, I'm not sure I could have gone through the entire week had I traveled back and forth every day by bus. My bus goes every 7 minutes during the day, but the Ruissalo bus only once an hour so it'd have been difficult. And it was simply wonderful not have to think about what to make for breakfast, lunch or dinner even once - all I had to do was show and there'd be plenty of different, tasty foods to choose from. A real treat for someone like me who lives alone and so is solely responsible for what to eat 100% of the time! 💖

I'll be away the entire next week! I'll be in multi-professional individual rehabilitation and will be staying overnight. I'm leaving early tomorrow (Monday) morning and will be back sometime after 3pm on Friday.

I'm not taking my laptop with me, so if any server problems pop up during the week with my sites, I'll look into it after I'm back - maybe Friday evening, but more likely, Saturday.

I'm so exited! Mom bought me a new laptop for my 50th birthday which will be in a month. It's a Lenovo ThinkBook 16 G6; we bought it online on Monday and it was ready for pickup yesterday afternoon in the store! I of course went immediately! 🥳😍

It's 16" and has 32GB of RAM, Ryzen 7 and 1TB hard drive with Windows 11 Pro. I got it all done installing Windows and Lenovo things yesterday and it laptop seems wonderful! I love the keyboard, how thin and light it is, how quiet it is and that it stays cool all the time so far. It also doesn't that much smaller than my old 17,3" one which I was worried about - I don't have a TV so I watch TV on my laptop and it needs to be bigger because of that, and larger also feels more comfortable to do work on my websites or whatever. 

I don't think I've ever owned a computer/laptop that didn't have problems when just bought - this time is no different. There's 3 problems:

1. The mouse pad doesn't react to clicking its "buttons" but moving the cursor and tapping works normally. I noticed from the settings that tapping with two fingers works to open a context menu (which is a new feature to me) but I'm unable to click a button and drag items or click and select (text) or click and scroll pages. I'm not sure whether this is a Windows 11 problem or a Lenovo problem.
2.  AMD error notice says that AMD software and AMD drivers are incompatible - I've googled a bit and might be some hybrid setting that needs to be on (or maybe off?). I just need to find where that hybrid setting is to try it. Otherwise it needs googling more.
3.  Colors seem very yellow (although some videos I've been watching in MPC-BE maybe don't but I'm not sure?). I've disabled all the "protect your eyes from blue light" settings I could find and that helped quite a bit, but there's still a definite yellow tint. I particularly notice it in Chrome. This might get solved/be able to solve if and when I can solve #2.

EDIT 1,5 hours later to add: #2 and #3 solved! All I had to do was to install newest version of AMD Adrenalin, and that solved the software + driver being unsuitable problem, and once AMD Adrenalin was working, there are settings there for screen colors which solved the yellow problem ❤️

EDIT October 3, 2024 - today single finger tapping twice and dragging to move and resize windows and scrolling the scrollbar is working and easy to make it happen! I couldn't get it to work yesterday - not sure if it was me or the mousepad. Either way I can now do everything by the mousepad like in my old laptops even though the pressing on the lower right corner to right-click still isn't working although I think it should be? Maybe this is actually Windows 11 feature and you're suppose to use tapping instead?? I don't know!

The mouse pad problem is only on the mouse pad - I tried my physical separate wireless USB mouse and it worked as it should!

I actually like quite a bit that two-finger tap opens context menu and I'm getting used to it), but it's cumbersome having to use the keyboard to select text because using shift + arrow buttons to do it are so slooooow. So I hope I can figure this one out quickly!

But I'm very excited and quite pleased (and a little frustrated because of the 3 problems) so far. This laptop seems like mine right away!

In other news, I of course had a migraine coming in since Monday evening 🙁 and it got active going towards night yesterday. Didn't get sleep really last night because of it, maybe 2 hours plus some resting until midday today. Now feeling better but my head is feels like it threatens to re-start, maybe.

Also, interestingly - I don't have that as much patience and energy for computer problems solving as I used to have. I have had my previous laptop for 10 years and whatever problems that one had, I solved them 10 years ago and haven't had real new features or new problems if drivers or anything since then. It used to be I'd be happy as a clam to spend hours/days/weeks troubleshooting some problem, but now I'm kinda wishing I could just bring over the Lenovo to someone who'd fixit for me! Unfortunately, I'm the most computer savvy person among my family and friends, so I'd have to pay for it.

I noticed this as well 3 years ago when Mom bought a new laptop and I set it up as I always do - I was happy to do it, luckily there wasn't real problems just one or two things took time to teach Mom to do, but I noticed I didn't feel like spending time to get real up close and personal with Windows 11  like I had with all the other operating systems I or we'd had had (Windows 95 all through to Windows 10 by then, Linux Ubuntu, Linux Mint). I myself have had Windows 10 until this Lenovo so Windows 11 was new to me and things seemed to harder to find than in previous versions. If I didn't have to, I didn't really want to explore it just for the hell of it. I just made everything work for Mom and her SO, and figured out and taught Mom the few things she needs to know to do herself. So I guess this is one of the downsides too of not being healthy: not having the mental wherewithal to do explore the same things as before even though I'm still interested.

But yes, I'm excited! I watched some HDR 4K h265 tv episodes and this Lenovo played them without problems! My old laptop can only play 1080p easily. I'm so happy to finally be able to play HDR 4K eps and movies 🥳

Oh, and the Lenovo was on sale - 200 euros off the regular price! So that was really good 🥳

The I’m-one-of-my-biological-father’s-heirs-but-shouldn’t-be-because-my-adoption-as-a-baby-in-1975-was-supposed-cut-all-legal-and-otherwise-ties-to-my-biological-family-completely-but-law-was-changed-5-years-later-and-we-didn’t-know-until-he-died thing is finally solved!

I ended up making an appointment with Tax Administration, because my bio sister WhatsApped me in the spring that there's no inheritance, only debt so all the required-by-law documents such as the Estate Inventory Deed have been created and that everybody (me included as I had told her) had given up the inheritance and the papers were done without help from legal aid or heirs present and had been delivered to the Tax Administration.

Except I hadn't seen any of it, nor had I been asked to give her the I-give-up-the-inheritance paper signed as it should be done so it's everything's properly documented. When I asked for a copy of the Estate Inventory Deed, she gave me excuses for a few weeks that she would as soon as this and that and those were done, and then went complete silence after a month or so. I had been getting more and more suspicious for a while, whether it was malice or just carelessness, so at that point I wrote the bio family off in my mind and decided to advance the thing re: my part in it via other avenues.

I found out the official lawyer association offers free legal advice once  a month for quick things (15 minute appointments so can't go in depth or ask about very complicated things) and pointers, so a couple of months ago I went in, explained my situation and that I didn't know what had been done or not been done or what my legal status was re: the inheritance and asked what should be my next step. I was advised as next step to request a copy of the Deed documents from Tax Administration, which is free for those involved. I did, and Tax Administration sent me a letter that they can't deliver me such documents because Tax Administration does not have them. For some reason, I wasn't surprised.

So I made an appointment with Tax Administration which was this morning because I wasn't entirely certain I had worded my request correctly. The cleric checked all my and my bio father's information and they really don't have Estate Inventory Deed or any documents about my bio father's estate which the estate is mandatory to create and submit to Tax Administration within 3 months of the death. It's been 2,5 years since the bio father's death, and while extensions are easily granted when asked, not years. So much time has now passed, that she was a little surprised the matter hasn't been flagged for review. So it looks like the bio siblings haven't handled the inheritance things as required by law, which will lead to tax ramifications if it goes on too long.

But! The good news: I was able to make my official I-give-up-the-inheritance document right then and there, signed and delivered to Tax Administration itself right there! 😁 It is usually submitted as part of the Estate Inventory Deed documents, but doing it separately is also possible. So I did! Any legal responsibility I had about the matter ended today!!! And any ramifications from not delivering the documents required by law in time should not affect me, because I've been trying to advance the matter all this time as shown by WhatsApp messages and steps I've taken in the matter but couldn't really because I don't know anything about the deceased or anyone involved in the whole thing while the other 5-6 heirs who do, either haven't done their duty or have done it wrong somehow. In any case, the matter is now resolved on my part and I don't have to think about the thing at all anymore! ✨😁