My answers to last Friday’s question @thefridayfive
1. Do you want to get married?
Nope. I’m not even in a relationship and am not looking for one, so marriage is so far down my list of Possible Happenings that I can’t even see it.
My Mom’s best friend has never been married so I grew up with that as a normal thing. And my Mom never re-married after my Dad died although she and her SO have been living together for about 30 years now, as well as many closest people never marrying or marrying late (close to 40 years of age), so I’ve never been in environment where not being married was seen as weird, or where there was pressure to find a boyfriend/girlfriend and marry. Just some of us are single and some of us aren’t and it’s all normal. All in all I think I’m generation where people living together without marrying started to become more common along with being single.
I’m not sure I could even learn to live with another person, having lived alone for 32 years now (since I was 17). And honestly… the thought of tying myself to another person legally is mildly horrifying.
2. Where would you like to get married?
If the impossible happens and I find myself wanting to get married, I think I’d want to do it in a civil ceremony in the Court’s Office, with only witnesses present. I hate being the center of attention and big parties/crowds. So I think I’d prefer to just tie the knot quietly and privately and then let people know after the fact in a casual way. I think most likely my spouse and I would’ve been living together for a long time already (years) and this was just making it official, in no small part due to it being easier legally and practically in some ways to be married in the eyes of the law.
3. If you were getting married in a week, who would be in your wedding party?
No wedding party. Just the witnesses.
4. What would your wedding colours be?
None.
5. Does marriage mean to you ’til death do us part?’
Nope. If you’re really lucky, you may get that. But mostly I think that people change and grow, and it’s just as likely that they change and grow in ways that their wansts and goals aren’t compatible anymore. Then it’s better to divorce than to try and force it.