One bad news and one good news today:

Bad news – Mom’s hip displaced again today again 😞 Mom’s SO just called me, she’s in the hospital right now.  She had a hip replacement surgery about 1,5 years ago, and in last May it happened the first time. And now a second time 🤕 This isn’t a surprise just a disappointment; they warned her that it could happen again, and that it happens easier when it’s once happened already. They also said in May that if it happens again Mom will have a new surgery to try and fix it. So that looks likely now. And her other hip is also getting bad enough that that too needs replacement surgery sooner rather than later. Fuck frail human bodies!

Good news – the judge approved my weak-adoption-to-strong-adoption application! 💖 So now my legal status is what we’ve always thought it to be! 💖😊 I’m so happy (and stunned) it took less than a month 💖💖💖 from the date when I delivered all the necessary papers to the court to get it processed! I thought it would take months because so much is made of the courts being backlogged badly. This doesn’t help with the “heir of the biological father” thing, but now I can’t inherit my bio mother and she (or my bio family in general) can’t inherit me automatically 😊

Image from Pixabay. Because I need something bright and cheery for this post.

I’m adopted and the adoption was finalized in May 1975 when I was six months old. So 46+ years ago. The adoption papers my Mom has say that all legal, financial and otherwise connections to my biological parents and family is severed completely and forever and ever.

Only, the law changed on January 1, 1980 and then again in 2012… and now my adoption is considered a “weak” adoption. And it’s effective retroactively. Meaning that suddenly some of the profound legal connection is there: I am one of my biological parents’ heirs when they die, and I also inherit my biological siblings if they don’t have children or a married spouse. Also meaning that if I die before my Mom – it is my biological mother who inherits me, not my Mom, because I don’t have children and I’m not married. I do and did inherit my adopted parents, but not equally with their own biological children (my adopted parents only ever had me and no biological children, so that bit is moot I guess… but that nice bit of law is still there for other adopted people and their families).

So in short, my legal status is not what my parents and I have thought it to be for over 47 years.

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